There are several different types of parenting styles, but I wanted to start off with the one that is considered the most effective for short and long term results. This would be authoritative parenting. What it means for a parent to take this approach is creating a trusting environment with support and open communication. For example, setting clear expectations and boundaries while still making sure to listen to and understand how the child feels can help them feel valued and respected. You can also make it a point to communicate with your child and help them understand why certain boundaries are being put in place so they can understand as well. Growing up with these qualities has been shown to create stronger social skills, emotional regulation, and independence. When a child is being guided instead of forced and controlled, they grow a sense of responsibility and cooperation that will benefit them in the future. By gaining confidence and independence, the child can excel through life using problem solving skills and empathy that they learn growing up. Authoritative parenting also creates strong parent to child relationships. Mutual respect, trust, and empathy will allow for positive long term outcomes for the child, parent, and relationships.
Unlike authoritative parenting, there are other parenting styles that do not have a positive influence and can potentially cause harm to relationships or future outcomes. One of these would be authoritarian parenting. This takes the approach of wanting instant obedience and compliance, even with little communication. For example, strict rules and guidelines are set for children to follow without question. This takes away the inclusion and sense of value from the child, as they may feel that their feeling do not matter or get a say. Sometimes this approach can result in instant cooperation, however it can be doing damage to the child’s mind. The authoritarian approach can result in low self esteem, shutting down emotionally, anxiety, and lack of confidence. This can have an effect on their behavior as well. The child may grow up depending on strong authority and control, or they might not know how to handle freedom when it is granted and can take advantage of it. Due to lack of confidence, this can make future problem solving and decision making increasingly challenging. Lacking trust and support within authoritarian relationships can draw the child farther away and cause long term damage.
It is important to understand what type of parenting style you may have and how it is influencing your child in order to ensure that they are being provided the most beneficial and positive guidance as possible. Looking at the authoritative and authoritarian parenting styles, it is clear that the authoritative approach will benefit a child’s development the most. Both of these styles want to enforce rules and boundaries, yet the key to a positive outcome is communication and support. By prioritizing emotional connection, understanding, and independence, authoritative parenting is able to provide a space where everyone feels respected rather than controlled. The authoritarian approach of discipline and little communication will just cause harm and for people to shut down. Overall, responsive and supportive environments will allow for a child to grow and thrive.
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